May Day

May 1st is one of my favorite days. Not only is it the beginning of the most beautiful month here at Fernwood (thanks to the former owner who planted for spring) but it’s also my husband’s birthday and May Day/Beltane. So many lovely things to celebrate all packed into one day!

“Now is the moment to flourish and thrive: to open our hearts and welcome meaningful connection with nature and with each other, and to revel in the joys and blessings of being alive in this beautiful world. It's no easy task at such a difficult and uncertain time, but if anything the spirit of Beltane is an important reminder to seek and offer support wherever we can, and to find beauty and contentment in the simplest of things.” ~ from the Folk + Field newsletter  

I have plans to gather some hawthorn branches and make some bouquets, plant some potatoes and sunflower seeds, and of course there will be a special birthday meal, and if the weather holds, our first outdoor fire. I find these little rituals so helpful in transitioning to a new season. (And we are on the cusp of more than just summer as we begin to enter a new phase with the pandemic. It feels more important than ever to ground and center, doesn’t it?)

Here at home I am leaning into some new writing rhythms that are working well and I have a head full of ideas. I just need more time (and er…discipline) to translate them to the page, but it’s hard to be disciplined when Mama Earth is being so beautiful and showy right now! I’ve learned though, that creative work is not just about the number of hours you force yourself to work but the amount of time you open yourself to life, to allowing the beautiful and the difficult things to work on your spirit and sharpen your senses. We live in a time of striving for notice and a certain type of accomplishment, but there is a lovely synergy and freedom that happens when you let that go and spend that striving time caring for your soul instead.

My Beltane prayer for you:

Peace to your heart.

Peace to your mind.

Peace in the letting go.

Peace in the receiving.

Peace in the being, just as you are.

Just as you are.

Peace, peace, peace to your soul.

<3

I’ll leave you with these little glimpses of home:

on my work desk.

dreaming of next spring….

daily harvest

kale magic

patience….

rewarded.

Oh my Heart. <3<3<3

Happy May Day, my friends.

So much love.

tonia

"lead is not gold..."

“For many of us, wound means truth. In a sugared world, holding your gaze to something broken, bereft or damaged seems like the deepest, most articulate position we can take. We see this move all the way through the modern arts. It’s what gets the big grants. Myths say no. The deepest position is the taking of that underworld information and allowing it to gestate into a lived wisdom that, by its expression, contains something generative. The wound is part of a passage, not the end in itself. It can rattle, scream and shout, but there has to be a tacit blessing, or gift, at its core.

Many stories we are holding close right now have the the scream but not the gift. It is an enormous seduction on behalf of the West to suggest that jabbing your pen around in the debris of your pain is enough. It’s not. That’s uninitiated behaviour masquerading as wisdom. Lead is not gold, no matter how many times you shake it at the sun.”

~ Dr. Martin Shaw, “Small gods”

“The myth I hold is not that of the curse on the family, the guilt hovering forever as a result of a bad deed; but instead the vision of life haunted by some unerasable good deed: a life that can’t lose for long, or at least forever.  Not Oedipus doomed, but Aeneas bearing the unshruggable potential for later life  - this is the pattern I note.”

~ William Stafford, The Answers Are Inside the Mountains

my repentant skin

“If we perish - I meant to say persist -

do we arise and turn

with the wind?….”

~Kyce Bello

I lose my appetite for distraction overnight. I’m full up with the world we’ve made, violent and exploitative, rapacious and unthinking. I’m full up on all the ways we can rehearse those realities as entertainment. I feel the great grief and burden of being human, full of possibility and yet incapable of restraint.

So many of our conversations now lead to: will the virus change anything? Will we just go right back?

My rational self fears writer Paul Kingsnorth is right:

“Now I will say what I believe: that this civilization will not learn anything from this virus. All this civilization wants to do is to get back to normal. Normal is cheap flights and cheap lattes, normal is Chinese girls sewing our T-shirts under armed guard, normal is biblical bushfires and barrels of oil, normal is city breaks and international conferences and African children poisoning their bodies sorting the plastic we have dumped on their coastlines, normal is nitrite pollution and burning stumps and the death of the seas.

We made this normal, and we do not know how to unmake it, or—whisper it—we do not want to.”

But maybe not for me, I think. Maybe for me (for you?) something else is stirring.

Prayer in the time of corona: Slow me down enough. Give me enough time to change, to really change. Drive the truth down deep of what I could be if I tried, of how I could really live.

Maybe I will not spend these weeks in the dark feeding from the trough of a broken culture. Maybe I will spend them instead under the sun, the moon, the rainy skies, listening to old wisdom, to the heartbeat of the world and its creative Spirit.

I went to bed last night sick of heart, but then I dreamed of bees. I was standing under the sun longing for them to find me, my arms held open, waiting for them to come explore the territory of my repentant skin.

continually

My body and mind have adjusted to quarantine-time by slowing down. There is nothing urgent on the schedule and yet the morning slips away between cups of tea and cleaning the kitchen, I blink and the afternoon follows. Only a month ago I was all efficiency and order.

I worry a lot. Not about myself or my loved ones, per se, but about the curtain pulled back, so many teetering on the edge of disaster. Has there ever been a war or plague or disaster that came for the rich and powerful and left alone the weak, the old, and the poor?

This morning we dialed up France and prayed from the prayer book together. There was a time delay, and so our words stuttered and doubled each other. “Our Father…” “Our Father….” “Forgive us…” “Forgive us…” “Give us this day…” “this day…” I imagine the prayers echoing continually, continually.

Every day I shed hesitations like November leaves, gaining clarity. Life feels compressed, focused. I know what I want from it. Another week of this and I will wonder what all that wavering and questioning was about.

What matters:

Relationships: obvious.

Connection: to the world here, now.

Words: “…in some ancient societies storytellers and healers were one and the same.” *

Joy: integration - heart, mind, soul, body

I see a road ahead that is my own. It winds up and down following the land. In the notes I keep from these days of isolation I see that I am no longer afraid to follow it.

“Also in Raissa, city of sadness, there runs an invisible thread that binds one living being to another for a moment, then unravels, then is stretched again between moving points as it draws new and rapid patterns so that at every second the unhappy city contains a happy city unaware of its own existence.” (Italo Calvino - Invisible Cities)

I balance the worry with gratitude, like everyone, seizing on the hints of a way we might choose to go in the aftermath. “What if everything shut down,” a young friend asks, “and we had to return to using horses?” For a moment, I imagine the clop of hooves on the roadway, feel my hand brush across a smooth flank, allowing myself a glimpse of a possible world. On the road below the house a car goes by, insistent. Our own cars sit calmly in the driveway waiting to be needed.

On our walks, we name the birds, the plants, the trees. We dig out the seed packets we hadn’t planned on planting and lay out the possibilities. It’s as if the earth is calling to us, drawing us into herself, the way I used to pull my babies into my chest to soothe them. All week the rain has been falling, shushing us, calming us.

I sign up for a class on bees. I stare out the window. Worry and gratitude surge and retreat. Prayers patter on the rooftop, hunger of the whole world for peace and safety, here, now. Somehow, listening, I discover I am not afraid.

*Terri Windling

March 23, 2020

Hello my friends,

The sun is shining today as I sit here and write to you, but it’s the last of the sun for at least a week.  I know that’s going to be hard for people who are just learning to stay home and be settled, and that makes me feel a bit anxious. (Fellow empaths, you understand: it’s hard to keep from absorbing everyone else’s feelings!) So far, at least in my small world, moods have stayed pretty positive and friendly despite the limitations put on everyone.  With the exception of those stubborn few people who refuse to stay home and isolate (which just baffles me !!) I do have a sense that we are all trying our best to save each other.

A lot of artists and writers have been rising to the occasion and posting extra content online and offering what they can to distract and cheer us all.  I’m so thankful for those people whose first instincts in a crisis are outward-facing.  They help us so much.  I’m not really one of those people.  In a crisis, I immediately go emotionally hypothermic:  all the blood and heat goes to guard my core.  I shut down all the extra functions, including anything creative, and close my circle to those who feel safest and most familiar.  It’s a survival function, as much as the instinct to reach out and connect is for others.  We probably need both things in a healthy community.  Some of us are just second-wave kind of people and our time to create and share and support will come. 

In the meantime, I’ve been keeping busy with projects around home.  My husband is working from my little basement office now (and rightly so, it has the best internet access in the house) so I have been fixing up another space for myself, painting and scraping and imagining new curtains sewn from my fabric stash.  I’ve also been making reusable sanitizing wipes (except I used Everclear since there’s no rubbing alcohol to be found), and cutting up old t-shirts for tissues so that the toilet paper will stretch a little further.  

I wrote at the beginning of this month that my current motto is Ora et labora.  That’s not changing any time soon and this week I’m going to make a new prayer altar as well.  We have four children, one who works in medicine, one living in France for the immediate future, and two who work in industries deemed “essential,” so I feel a little vulnerable about all of them being out and about in the world just now.  Somehow, it seems like a little altar might help the prayers be more real. 

So far, enduring a pandemic is like some kind of freestyle dance between focused work and focused nurturing.  Clean the pantry?  Yes.  Digital minimalism?  Not right now, thanks.  I would love to say that at the end of the day I am using all this time to read hard books and think deep thoughts, but really, I’m just trying to decide if I can eat more brownies and find something distracting to watch, just like everyone else I know. 

~ Once I get my new office space set up and it feels like things settle down a bit, I will get back to work on a newsletter for you.  I had planned on sharing a story this time.  Which is still unwritten.  (*eep*)  It will probably be an April newsletter since the days keep going by in a blur.  Our bookstore shut down so the giveaway will be on hold again.  Gee whiz.  Every once in awhile it hits me how strange this all is and how everyone in the whole world is feeling and experiencing the same thing I am right now.  Thank goodness for all of you who are able to respond right away and help us know what to do next.  I’m going to defrost eventually and get back to the words.  I will try to post something weekly though, so we don’t lose touch.  Thanks for your patience.  When I set up that prayer altar this week those prayers will be going up for you too. 

Peace keep you, my friends.  Second-wave people: no guilt. Just do you.

Love each other well.

tonia